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    You Can’t Live Without Them, And Other Lies

    Relationships can be great. They can be healing, they can be fulfilling. They can be conduits for love and affection. They can be mechanisms for collaboration and teamwork. On the flip side, relationships can be the Trojan horse carrying toxin into your life. They can destroy you, slowly, while portraying the illusion they are the best thing for you. Many years ago, I was an easily-manipulated and quite dense young man. I surrounded myself with friends and family who I thought had my best interests in mind, and who I thought only wanted to see me succeed. I clung to these relationships because I didn’t know they were bad for…

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    Dramatic Exits

    There used to be a time, not that long ago, when I was in love with chaos and unrest. I know, that sounds kind of ‘evil’ in a sense, but it’s true. There was a time when I loved when things in my life were in a state of unrest, when there was no structure or quiet, when there was always a crisis that needed my attention. As the years have gone by, I’ve come to detest that need for crisis. I’ve learned to enjoy the quiet, the peaceful moments of my life. I’ve come to appreciate the calm in the midst of all the storms, instead of obsessing over…

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    The Powerful No

    Why is it so hard to say no? Throughout my life, I’ve struggled immensely with assertiveness. Or lack thereof. From being bullied, to standing up for my faith, to turning down friends and family when they ‘need’ me, I’ve always struggled with that one two-letter word: NO. It’s such a powerful word, and it can bring so much freedom to our lives, but only if we know how to use it. Back in the day, I struggled with assertiveness so much so that I actually signed myself up for a community college course on Assertiveness Training. I took one look at the workbook and realized I could handle my assertiveness…