There’s a great many people I have heard blame their current situation on their past circumstances. They were born into poverty, someone betrayed them in life, or life itself dealt them a bad hand at one point and they never quite recovered.
But does any of that really matter?
It’s true that our circumstances shouldn’t define us, but it’s hard to walk that attitude out into the real world. At any moment, anything can happen to us. We’re overcharged from our bank account, we run into a medical crisis, or we lose that job we’ve poured a good portion of our lives into. We lose a spouse, child, or friend. Our only vehicle breaks down, the friend we trusted gossips about us behind our back, or the significant other we have been with for so long cheats on us.
Murphy’s Law states that anything that can go wrong, will go wrong. And I’ve experienced that truth first hand many, many times in my own life.
But the one thing I’ve learned, is that life isn’t about the circumstances that surround us. It’s about how we deal with those circumstances. Sure, life will throw us a bad hand. And so we sit here at the poker table, staring at our opponents, knowing we have a terrible, terrible set of cards in palm. We sweat, we try not to give away our nervous tic. The reward in the center of the table is worth this trouble though, right? It’s why we came to play.
So we play. We play the cards that are in our hand, not the ones we wish we had.
We play the cards that are in our hand, not the ones that someone took from us earlier in the game.
We play the cards that are in our hand, not the ones that became lost or misplaced at some point during the game.
None of those other cards matter. All that matters is the hand we currently have. And we have to do the very best with that hand if we want to win this thing called life.
Has life dealt you a bad hand? Do the best you can with it. Don’t give up. Don’t give in. It’s not over until it’s over.